After church tonight, I asked JL to call his parents again and invite them again to come and visit us. We've been inviting them to come and visit us since June. They planned a trip for July and then backed out at the last minute... and ever since they basically won't even speak of it. I feel like I'm still the reason they refuse to come. I feel like I'm the one bringing my husband pain while he longs to have a relationship with his parents but they still seem to feel that I was the wrong choice that he made. How is it that we've been married for nearly a year and they still hate me? Lord, what more can I do?
I feel like I humble myself every time they are invited to come after they completely blow us off. It appears as though I have not been humbled enough. I know that when we first got married, I hadn't completely surrendered to what Jesus wanted for my life, and I made a LOT of mistakes, especially when it came to the in-laws... And God help me, I am trying.
Church tonight was great, the music was wonderful. I wish I could be a part of it.
JL got to meet one of the group leaders for my Character Development class, Nola.
Tomorrow morning I have the infants again, I am really looking forward to it. There is nothing more precious and pure than the love or loving an infant.
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Don't worry, it took my MIL over 7 years (3 of those married) to finally accept me as part of the family. And we're finally now to the point where we can pleasantly spend time together (only took her 11 years lol). We're never going to be drinking buddies but I don't feel like chewing my leg off to get away from her either lol
Just give the relationship with your inlaws some time. And let your hubby deal with them. Trust me - he knows how to handle them best and you'll just come off looking like a meddler if you try to fix things.
It's probably their own issues that's keeping them from visiting. Maybe they feel like you "stole" their "little boy" away from them, or they're having financial or medical trouble that's keeping them from traveling. Or maybe they've just got a weird hang up. For example, running a marathon is easier than getting my in-laws out of their house. My MIL especially went on and on about how much she's always wanted to see the Outer Banks, yet every time we offered to fly them out to visit us in NC, they never accepted. (We're originally from Oregon but DH was stationed in NC for 3 years.) My parents came out for a visit and it really hurt Chris that his parents wouldn't make the effort. Even when we were still living in Portland and only a 15 minute drive from their house, it was next to impossible to get them to come over. Even with my new SIL that MIL gets along with much better than me, my in-laws still refuse to visit.
Their not visiting us has absolutely nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. Stop beating yourself up for something that you can't control :)
Thanks Becky!!
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